Intellecutals

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mvkz9Rqzcs0

This week we talked a lot about parenting and becoming a parent.
I think that Bill Cosby can sum up what it means to be a parent quite well.
Right now, I am an "intellectual". I don't have children. Not by choice, but just because that is the way it's going to be for a while.
We asked the question in class: "Why do you want children?" Why do I want children?
There were a number of girls who said "because they are cute!"I have one thing to say to those girls...go get a puppy. Having children just because "they are cute" isn't a good reason to create and be responsible for human life. Having a child is so much more than that.
I decided that I wanted children for the experience. I want to experience the hardest but most rewarding time in any two people's lives. I want to know what it's like to become a mom, to hear my baby cry for the first time, and have those sleepless nights that everyone complains about, but won't trade the world for.
There were some comments that stood out to me.
First of all, my husband has told me that I wasn't allowed to have my mother in the birth of my child. He has never told me that if anyone is going to be there that it would be his mother because she and I need to bond. I can't imagine having that kind of a husband. When I was pregnant, Duncan told me that I could have anyone there that I wanted because I would be doing all of the work anyways. Granted, we had decided that it would just be me and him anyways, but still, he would never be that kind of a husband.
Second, I loved the comments made by a guy in the back. He told of his favorite experiences about the birth of his daughter. He got emotional, and it brought the spirit of what childbirth actually is back into the classroom. I really appreciated it.

One day, I will be a mother. Either to my own children, or to another child. It will be a wonderful experience. Hard, but wonderful.